Emotional Self-Responsibility

Posted on April 10, 2007 By

Emotional self-responsibility – what a proverbial mouthful! But what does it mean? Well, it means exactly what it says: accepting the responsibility for your emotional self. Hmmmm. Okay… and what does this mean? Basically, it means being conscious of our emotional reactions and the effect they have on a situation. It means being aware that our perception of “reality” is not the only perception of things – that everyone perceives things differently, and that our perception of things is affected largely by the (pre-existing) emotional state we bring to a situation.

Our perceptions of reality are also colored by our emotional reaction to a situation. How often do we have an emotional reaction to something that is said or done? How often do we attempt to blame others for our emotions or our reactions to things? It is entirely possible that another person may have done something you didn’t appreciate, or something that affected you adversely, but did they somehow force you react to the situation badly? Did they make you feel anger or frustration or joy? No, they didn’t; but you did. Each of us chooses our emotional state and our reactions to things all the time – but how often are we willing to admit it and accept responsibility for them? This is what emotional self-responsibility is about.

Be aware of your emotional state. Be aware of your reactions to things, and take responsibility for the emotional choices you make. It may take some practice, but eventually you may find that instead of your emotions controlling you, you are the one controlling them instead!


Nudges & Ponderings

  1. zim xero says:

    Not sure who you are but this was the only thing on the internet i could find which matches what i am researching and practicing. wonderful. I was wondering if i was the only one in the world that believed we cause and produce our own emotions and not events.

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